WOMEN AND SEX

Sex is important to many women, but other women feel deeply conflicted about sex and their sexual selves.  Influenced by society's impossible ideals of physical beauty and sexiness, combined with at-times insufficient emotional connections with partners, many women are pained to allow their sexuality free expression.

Andrew Aaron, LICSW is sensitive to the many pressures women face while trying to be healthy, maintaining satisfying love and sexual relationships.

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Andrew Aaron, LICSW
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Women's sexual problems

Women are faced with many potential sexual stumbling blocks:

Low Sexual Desire: This is women's most common sexual complaint, which may be caused by biological, emotional and relational factors.  See the article "Low Female Sexual Desire" in the list of sexuality articles.  Sex therapy is very effective at helping women regain their sexual interest, especially when the cause is emotional or relational.  Distinguishing these factors often is not always easy for a woman to determine.

Lack of Arousal: Upon commencement of a sexual experience, most women are greeted by changes in their body which suggests arousal, such as the presence of vaginal lubrication, increased blood flow to the genitals and breasts, increased sensitivity to stimulation, increase in heart rate and changes to breathing patterns.  However, due to a variety of factors, which may include negative emotions, such as fear, anxiety, anger, or preoccupation, a woman may not experience these physical symptoms of arousal.  The lack of arousal response can be troubling to a woman who wishes to enjoy a sexual experience, or to her partner who may interpret her lack of response as lack of interest, lack of attraction or love.

Vaginismus: Is a difficult condition which afflicts women resulting in their inability to have intercourse.  See the article entitled, "Women Who Can't Have Intercourse. A Discussion of Vaginismus" in the list of sexuality articles.  Originating from emotional or physical causes, women who suffer from vaginismus are unable to experience the comfortable penetration for intercourse.  In more extreme cases, penetration is prevented completely.  This results from the involuntary tightening of the muscles surrounding the opening to a woman's vagina either in reaction to the moment of penetration or more permanently, interfering with or preventing sexual intercourse.  So long as the basis for the development of vaginismus is emotional, as fear and anxiety may play a large role, sex therapy can be very effective at reducing the negative effects of vaginismus and of eliminating the negative effects from a woman's sex life. Several articles in on the articles page provide greater information about this uncomfortable condition.

Dyspaerunia: Is an emotionally-based sexual problem in which women experience pain during intercourse. If the problem is truly dyspaerunia, the pain is emotionally based, such as anxiety, fear, or unresolved past trauma, rather than physically-based.

Sexual Avoidance: Lack of sexual desire and avoidance of sex are commonly confused.  While lack of desire shows up as no interest in sex, avoidance is expressed as opposition to sex.  At its foundation, sexual avoidance is based upon fear or discomfort with sexual activity.  A woman may not be conscious of her motives, but may notice that she would rather do most anything other than have sex, and is likely to cite reasons, rational and irrational, to escape from a situation in which sexual activity is a possible outcome. 

 




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